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torsdag 26. januar 2012

amanda palmer / how do i get brave?












in my life and in my work, i’ve made a lot of people angry.

people love to judge. too feminist. not feminist enough. too outspoken. not outspoken enough. too intellectual.  too dumb. too glam. too underdressed. too funny. not funny enough. too inappropriate. too safe. wrong kind of funny. marrying my favorite author and now i fucking hate her. fat. irritating. loud. blah blah blah blah, etc, ad infinitum.

this is something i’ve had to learn to live with.

to get clear, i always have to stop, dig deep within myself and ask: were my intentions good? could i really stand behind them? was anybody really harmed?  if i’ve actually harmed someone (and the harm isn’t just a drama in their heads), have i owned my responsibility? when i quiet myself down and find the answer within myself, that’s the most important one. it speaks louder than the voices outside my head and the anonymous voices on the internet. it is to this voice you must listen, or you’re FUCKED.

i know a lot of younger people read this blog and i have constant contact with teenagers who are always asking me: “how do i get brave?”

a lot of that answer lies in situations like these.  when you are forced to sit down, reckon with a situation, listen to people screaming that they hate you, take stock of what you’ve done, look everyone in the eye, tell them what your intentions are, and know that they will either hear and understand you or they will walk away.

and then your job is to not run after them.  your job is to stay calm. your job is continue on with your work. and the hardest thing, sometimes, is to continue on with your work in a spirit of love, without letting other people’s hate and anger getting the best of you, and turning you into bitter, angry and jaded fuck.

it’s so easy to be afraid. to do nothing. to not make your art, to not follow your calling, your passion, your impulses, to not take any risks for fear of people cutting you down and misunderstanding you. most people are CONTROLLED by fear, because they’re convinced they’ll do the wrong thing, say the wrong thing, write the wrong thing, sing the wrong thing. those fears are founded. you can see that, here, now. shit happens, you can upset people.

and you need to do your work anyway, because the world needs you to.

that, i think, is how you get brave.



amanda palmer holder til her.

8 kommentarer:

  1. No sit eg her med tårer nedover kinna.
    Tusen takk, Amanda Palmer.
    Tusen takk, Kjersti.
    <3

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    1. du må sette deg ned med bloggen hennes og bare begynne og lese bakover... da har du stoff for en måneds tid. som alt er givende.

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    2. Ja, eg har lese mange av innlegga hennar allereie. She's amazing. Just like you.

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    3. Å herlighet. Made my day, my week, my life. TAKK for at du introduserte oss!

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    4. men kjære deg, har du ikke vært bortpå henne før? spotify that shit, og trål bloggen, virkelig. der kan du streame all musikken hennes også.

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  2. Takk for at vi har sånne som Amanda Palmer.

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  3. "most people are CONTROLLED by fear, because they’re convinced they’ll do the wrong thing, say the wrong thing, write the wrong thing, sing the wrong thing. those fears are founded"
    jeg vet egentlig ikke om det er ridningen i seg selv som hjelper, men nærværet av dyrene, iallefall for meg. for det er egentlig det som betyr noe for meg, det jeg gleder meg til å komme hjem til; dyrene mine. skulle ønske du kunne få ri også. kanskje du kan skaffe deg en venn med hest.
    og tusen takk for tipset om innlegget ditt<3 det var faktisk du som fikk meg til å like amanda palmer. så tusen takk

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  4. amanda palmer er så utrolig bra og talentfull og flott. det er bra det finne sånne folk.

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